You have children around you who don’t understand death or are even kept away from it. Children asking questions about dying and how death actually works. You no longer want to start with a booklet about a frog and a bird or about a rabbit, you really want to address the children in THEIR language and at THEIR level. You also know what a child’s imagination can do if you don’t explain what’s really going on. All this because you cannot bring it over your heart to let a child mourn for life for an untreated trauma.
They want to answer the children’s difficult questions about death. You don’t want to feel helpless, like a loose ship swimming around, no, you want to be the mighty motorboat that can save others from serious stupidity.
After working for years in a funeral parlour, I went into special education. In the first year, two parents, a student and my intern died. In both situations I met many children who were not understood or kept out of death. I worked hard for years to change that. Especially to talk to children about death, I developed funeral toys. In my Master’s programme in Education, I concentrated on caring for children in whom one parent died.